German Wedding

German Wedding, The Way to Go

A wedding marks a critical point in one's life because, after this ceremony, you either become a wife or a husband. Planning a wedding ceremony is quite involving, especially to the two families that are brought together through this union. The service has to be perfect because it isn't a rehearsal.

If you want to have a lovely wedding, it's better to go the traditional way. There's no better way of doing this that choosing a conventional German wedding. Germans have exciting wedding traditions that will make your day exciting and fun both to you and your guests.

What Traditional German Wedding Entails

A German wedding is lavish in many customs that are a great addition to any couple with a German background. The traditions begin the moment a girl is born. When you have a girl, you'll plant several trees to honor her. It's these trees you'll cut and use to pay for her dowry at the time of her engagement (nowadays, this tradition isn't common).

Another exciting culture is that before the engagement of a girl, she'll start collecting pennies. Later on, she'd use these pennies to buy hochzeitschuhe (wedding shoes). And on her wedding day, her mother is supposed to put dill in her right shoe.

Hochzeitslader, an Aged Bavarian Custom

In Germany, they never send invitations but a Hochzeitslader who goes personally to invite the guests to the wedding ceremony. The Hochzeitslader dresses in fancy robes decorated with flowers and ribbons. He's supposed to visit all the homes in the village to invite them to the wedding.

When you accept the invite, you'll pluck one ribbon from his robes. Then you invite him in for a drink. This invitation process can take several days, depending on the number of invitees. Another fascinating German tradition is the junggesellenabschied (bachelor party). It usually takes place before the wedding. The groom, together with his friends, goes to a pub and enjoys himself one last time before the he gets married.

Church Wedding (Hochzeit) Follows Civil Ceremonies

In Germany, it is a requirement by the law that a church wedding (hochzeit) should come after a civil ceremony. This means, when the couple walks the aisle, they do so as people who are already married. Meaning the father doesn't have to "give" his daughter again to the groom.

Another interesting thing is that the groom's friends and the bridesmaids and not allowed to take part in the procession. A couple may choose one girl to be part of the wedding procession. The girl is dressed in beautiful clothes and has to carry a bouquet. The ceremony can last for one-and-a-half hours, and it involves singing, sermons, and a Wedding Mass (for a catholic couple). 

Bride Clothes (Bräutkleid) And Bridegroom Clothes (Bräutigams Kleidung)

Traditionally, the bride is supposed to wear a strapless white dress. The bridal bouquet comprises of flowers like lilies of the valley, orchids, and roses. The groom is supposed to be in a tuxedo or black suit.

Spitzwecken (The Cake)

Ever seen a cake that's 10 feet long? Well, that's what you'll see at a German wedding ceremony. And there's a ritual used to bring the cake into the room. The cake is placed on a plate (wooden) and is carried by about 10 men/women guests.

As the music plays in the background, the group will pretend that they can't get the cake in (because it's too big); that's the fun part of it. The group is then served with beer from a bucket using a ladle.

After that, they'll need to find how the cake would get in. One of the solutions would be to ax the door. But how is this done? One group would hold a piece of wood against the door frame while another group would ax this piece of wood pretending to be axing the door frame.

Usually, this procedure would "fail" to let the cake into the room. So the next thing to do is to cut the cake into two, sawing it with a plate. Finally, the cake gets in, and lots of applause welcome it. 

Hijacking the Bride

Hijacking the bride is a fascinating part of the wedding ceremony. It takes place between the afternoon cake & coffee and dinner. Some of the bride's closest friends would "hijack her," take her somewhere to drink champagne, and enjoy a Bavarian band with an accordion in the absence of the groom.

The groom will have to look for the bride and bring her the wedding bouquet. Once he finds her, several other games can follow where the groom does some funny things. The groom is supposed to pay for the bills before everyone heads back to the wedding location.

The Veil Dance, the Reception, and the Traditional Dances

While it may look odd to tear the wedding dress into pieces, that's what takes place at the veil dance (Schleiertanz). At the start of this dance, the bride gives away the veil. The veil gets spread out, and the bride and the groom are supposed to dance under it. Music will play, and immediately it stops, single women will rip off the veil into pieces, and whoever gets the most extensive portion would be expected to marry next.

The reception in Germany has some similarities with those in North America. As the meal gets served, there are speeches from the groom, the bride, and their respective family representatives.

The parents and the grandparent of the couple are supposed to sit at a particular table together with the bride and the groom. At the end of the meal, there's a dance to crown everything up. Usually, The Vienna Waltz plays because it is the most famous wedding song.

Sawing Wood

As the couple leaves, they can file a log placed for them on a sawbuck so they can cut it together. They are supposed to cut the log using a saw and harmoniously to reflect how they will work together to make their marriage successful. The couple then gets showered with rice - a symbol of fertility.

A German wedding has everything you may want in a marriage. If you are interested in having one, get a good wedding planner who's conversant with the German wedding traditions. You'll have a ceremony that will last longer in your memory.

New Articles

Afghan Wedding

Afghan Wedding

Cultural Weddings
Hawaiian Wedding

Hawaiian Wedding

Cultural Weddings
French Wedding

French Wedding

Cultural Weddings

EventDone LLC

We went Virtual!
Woo Hoo - working from home!

Privacy Policy
Legal Terms


Telephone: +1 (703) 239 - 6410

Fax: +1 (703) 574 - 8320

Information: info@eventdone.com

Support: support@eventdone.com

Privacy Notice

This privacy notice discloses the privacy practices for eventdone.com. This privacy notice applies solely to information collected by this website. It will notify you of the following: What personally identifiable information is collected from you through the website, how it is used and with whom it may be shared. What choices are available to you regarding the use of your data. The security procedures in place to protect the misuse of your information. How you can correct any inaccuracies in the information. Information Collection, Use, and Sharing We are the sole owners of the information collected on this site. We only have access to/collect information that you voluntarily give us via email or other direct contact from you. We will not sell or rent this information to anyone. We will use your information to respond to you, regarding the reason you contacted us. We will not share your information with any third party outside of our organization, other than as necessary to fulfill your request, e.g. to ship an order. Unless you ask us not to, we may contact you via email in the future to tell you about specials, new products or services, or changes to this privacy policy. Your Access to and Control Over Information You may opt out of any future contacts from us at any time. You can do the following at any time by contacting us via the email address or phone number given on our website: See what data we have about you, if any. Change/correct any data we have about you. Have us delete any data we have about you. Express any concern you have about our use of your data. Security We take precautions to protect your information. When you submit sensitive information via the website, your information is protected both online and offline. Wherever we collect sensitive information (such as credit card data), that information is encrypted and transmitted to us in a secure way. You can verify this by looking for a lock icon in the address bar and looking for "https" at the beginning of the address of the Web page. While we use encryption to protect sensitive information transmitted online, we also protect your information offline. Only employees who need the information to perform a specific job (for example, billing or customer service) are granted access to personally identifiable information. The computers/servers in which we store personally identifiable information are kept in a secure environment. If you feel that we are not abiding by this privacy policy, you should contact us immediately via telephone at (703) 239-6410 or via email found in our contacts page.

Legal Terms: Last Updated 4/19/2019

Please read these Terms and Conditions ("Terms", "Terms and Conditions") carefully before using the http://www.eventdone.com (change this) website and the EventDone mobile application (the "Service") operated EventDone. Your access to and use of the Service is conditioned on your acceptance of and compliance with these Terms. These Terms apply to all visitors, users and others who access or use the Service. By accessing or using the Service you agree to be bound by these Terms. If you disagree with any part of the terms then you may not access the Service. Links To Other Web Sites Our Service may contain links to third-party web sites or services that are not owned or controlled by EventDone LLC. EventDone has no control over, and assumes no responsibility for, the content, privacy policies, or practices of any third party web sites or services. You further acknowledge and agree that EventDone shall not be responsible or liable, directly or indirectly, for any damage or loss caused or alleged to be caused by or in connection with use of or reliance on any such content, goods or services available on or through any such web sites or services. Changes We reserve the right, at our sole discretion, to modify or replace these Terms at any time. If a revision is material, we notify you through a usage dialogue of any new terms taking effect. What constitutes a material change will be determined at our sole discretion. Contact Us If you have any questions about these Terms, please contact us.


Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit, sed do eiusmod tempor incididunt ut labore et dolore magna aliqua. Ut enim ad minim veniam, quis nostrud exercitation ullamco laboris nisi ut aliquip ex ea commodo consequat. Duis aute irure dolor in reprehenderit in voluptate velit esse cillum dolore eu fugiat nulla pariatur. Excepteur sint occaecat cupidatat non proident, sunt in culpa qui officia deserunt mollit anim id est laborum.

Copyright © 2018 - 2024 EventDone LLC. All rights reserved.